Heigh Ho, Heigh Ho, it’s back to blogging I go… How’s that for an entré? Good? No? Well, I’m not sure where to begin after disappearing for the past few months. How have you been? Have a good summer? I have missed you all. A LOT. To tell you the truth, it has taken a… Continue reading 5th Cancerversary. Yup. FBC.
Recently a girlfriend called me out and dressed me down. She just finished chemo and told me, “Hol, I love you and your book. It helped me through all of my treatments.” Sweet, right? THEN she said, “I am also thankful to you for teaching me how not to heal.” Huh? WTF? Seriously? Seriously. My eyes widened. My… Continue reading Practice What I Preach
When Someone is Grieving What to Say We have experienced a lot of death this year. Some loved ones have died suddenly and others have died after a prolonged illness. Ugh. Sadness, confusion, anxiety, emptiness…just a few of the many feelings that come with grief and bereavement. It occurred to me that – just as… Continue reading When Someone is Grieving What to Say
BFFL Co. As many of you already know, sharing tips with friends is one of my favorite things to do. One company that I have been meaning to tell you about is BFFL Co. BFFL stands for “Best Friends for Life”. Isn’t that the cutest name? Well, it’s a cute name with a very real and… Continue reading BFFL Co.
Empathy Cards As you all know, I have talked and talked (and talked!) about what to say and what not to say to someone who has cancer. It is stupendously important for friends of people who have cancer to know how to connect and communicate about sickness and suffering without bringing dreaded false cheer or… Continue reading Emily McDowell Sympathy Cards
Breast Biopsies Can Leave Room for Doubt About Cancer Recently, I came across an enlightening article in the New York Times by Denise Grady about a study identifying the doubt that can be raised by breast biopsies. Ugh. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. As I know you know, but just to remind you,… Continue reading Breast Biopsies Can Leave Room for Doubt About Cancer
Rita Wilson Breast Cancer Diagnosis & Treatment Did you hear about Rita Wilson? FBC. Yep. I was as surprised as you are. Having been in her shoes – well, not exactly in her shoes as I certainly am not a public figure – I understand how hard it is to share personal and difficult news with family… Continue reading Rita Wilson Breast Cancer Diagnosis & Treatment
Last night, I received an email alert from the New York Times with an article entitled, “Angelina Jolie Pitt: Diary of a Surgery.” My first thought was “here we go again.” As you may recall (who in the world doesn’t), two years ago, Angelina Jolie (pre-Pitt) underwent a “preventative” double mastectomy. I wrote about it here shortly thereafter. Please allow… Continue reading Angelina Jolie Pitt: Diary of a Surgery
Recently, I came across a fantastic article about choosing between having a mastectomy versus a lumpectomy for early FBC. Making any one of the seemingly bagillion decisions that have to be made after hearing the words, “You have cancer” can be overwhelming, confusing and twinkie-eating inducing. Just kidding on that last part. Sort of.… Continue reading Mastectomy vs. Lumpectomy
While I loooooove the holidays, they are also fraught with challenges You know what I mean? Too many calories. Too little sleep. Too many errands. Too little time. The year that I had FBC was especially difficult – obviously. DUH. I felt completely out of step from the rest of the world during that holiday… Continue reading Coping with Cancer During the Holidays